The Truth About Body Image & Intimacy
The Truth About Body Image & Intimacy
Let’s chat body image & intimacy.
Due to the shape & size of my body, I have never felt sexy.
To this day it is still something I deeply struggle with.
My boobs are supposed to be big to be sexy, right?
I’m supposed to be curvy but only in the right places, is what I was told.
I never saw images of bodies that looked like mine in the media, especially in lingerie.
The only girls I would relate to in movies and on TV were when they played the “ugly duckling” that suddenly blossomed and became desirable after a makeover or weight-loss (which naturally I then felt compelled to do myself so I would be desirable).
To my shock and disbelief I found a partner that finds me desirable at all stages (and has for nearly 12 years).
And yet it didn’t seem to be enough when I couldn’t believe it myself.
I avoided intimacy, my sex drive plummeted, our relationship suffered.
Intimacy is so much more than having a partner that finds you desirable... it’s having the power to be intimate with yourself. To be okay with yourself. To desire yourself, regardless of the other person.
It’s taken a lot of self-reflection and self work to come to that understanding.
And just like self-love, it’s a constant thing you need to choose to work on.
If you struggle with this, please know you are not alone.
You are not damaged.
You are not broken.
You are worthy.
